Day 78: Blame Character

The blame character steps forward when according to self something went ‘wrong’ within an event or if someone else finds something ‘wrong’ with an event that took place.

Let’s have a look at the first scenario where we within ourselves decided that something went ‘wrong’ with an event, where we then decided to blame another for it.

 

Within ourselves we create ideas of what it is that we would like to experience, how we would like to experience it and we even have schedules according to when we would like to experience the ideas that we carry within and as ourselves. As we are living our lives we walk into scenario’s and through our ideas create expectations of what, how or when we would like to experience events.

 

We believe that we have a right to these ideas within and as ourselves and when they do not manifest we lash out and blame those around us that we did not get what we believe we deserve, we believe we have a right to. The blame character then comes out to play saying:

“You don’t love me” / “You’re so selfish” / “You’re not considering me” / You don’t care for me”.

 

What the blame character does not realise is that it has an already manifested idea(s) of what it thinks it should receive and using the last example of ‘caring’, the blame character wants to be treated in a specific way according to the rules that the blame character has set up that according to him means ‘caring’. So when another person does not follow the rules of what the blame character has stored as an idea(s) of what caring is, the blame character will see this as something ‘wrong’ with the other person, thus blaming them for not giving to self what one wants as an idea(s) within and as oneself. 

 

Hahahaha – We have fooled ourselves. Expecting others to know what we want, demanding it, but never really letting anyone know exactly what it is that we had created an idea about within and as ourselves, but instead choose to blame the other person because they do not know what the idea within our mind looks like.

 

Another instance where the blame character comes out to play is where a third party makes a remark that what happened within an event is ‘wrong’. Here we are looking at another 2 dimensions wherein the first dimension, the third party intends and says to another person that what they did was ‘wrong’ and in the 2nd dimension, the third party makes a remark about the event and the receiver of the words interprets that what the third party is saying is that they did something wrong.

 

Within the first dimension, where the third party deliberately makes a statement that what one did was wrong, the blame character comes out to play when self does not want to take responsibility for what happened. This blame character likes words such as: “It was not me” / “It’s not my fault” / “They did it” / “Don’t look at me”; immediately diverting attention away from self, not wanting to see that self is responsible within and as each moment where self is present. Thus by self not standing up and seeing what is best for all within a moment, self rather hides behind the blaming character making it someone else’s responsibility.

 

Within the 2nd dimension, where the third party makes a comment which self interprets that self did something wrong, the blame character comes out to play because self already believes that self did something wrong. The belief within and as oneself is so real that self feels caught out when another person makes a remark, that self immediate jumps to the conclusion that self is wrong and self should be blamed. This blame character likes words such as: “What?” / “What do you mean?” / “What are you saying?”; not realising that self had already blamed self for doing something wrong, challenging the other person to admit that they also see self as doing something wrong, while secretly hoping that they will not see the event the same way, essentially getting oneself off the hook of being wrong.