Thursday, 14 August 2014

Taboo relationships


In a world where ‘relationships’ form the basis of our existence it is peculiar to see how little of ‘relationships’ we actually understand.
Relationships in the first context is used as a very broad term where once there is a connection between 2 points we are able to determine that there is some form of ‘relationship’ within the connection.
Relationships in the second context refers to relationships between people and here again we are able to refer to relationships between people as just a connection between 2 people or a relationship that is based on a more intimate level which could or could not include a sexual relationship.
When we form a connection to another person it more than often happens that we would want to form a closer intimate relationship with them as we feel drawn to that other person – much like atoms draw close to one another depending on the covalent bond ‘relationship’ that is formed.
What we do not always see and realize is that we see in that other person a part of ourselves that we would like to develop / explore / express which when in the other persons presence we feel that we have access to be able to express this part of ourselves. This other person therefore opens up this expression into our worlds and as we get a taste of this self expression when in the presence of this other person we become attached and do not want to let go – But it is in fact our own expression that we are now able to express within ourselves that we do not want to let go of.  (An example of this to follow later on in the blog)
When we look at the gift of what ‘relationships’ are able to offer each and everyone one of us – where we learn / grow and develop through the ‘relationships’ that we form with the people in our lives it is easy to see why our species is a social by nature, as it is within our social environments by socializing (and thus obviously communicating) with others that we develop ourselves and grow within ourselves.
Our world though consists of another layer of relationships – the relationships that we have formed in the physical reality as ‘promises’ to other people. These relationships, called marriages, is where we promise to another person to commit ourselves and our lives to this person which filters into a reality of where we create families and even in families there are ‘relationships’ built and created that keep us nested in our social structure within our world. These relationships are clear decisions that we have made in our worlds where we have committed ourselves to another and unless these decisions are changed within ourselves – They remain the foundation from which we will create our realities in the physical world – thus creating our family environment and our social environment.
But what happens when we form a ‘relationship’ / ‘a connection’ with another person which threatens the relationships as promises on the physical reality? We see this all the time with affairs happening or family members dating people from another culture, another race, another class. These ‘relationships’ that are formed between 2 people that do not meet the social criteria of our society are seen as taboo relationships and with good measure – because they do create conflict, they do create problems, they do create consequences that not only do the 2 people that get involved in this relationship has to deal with but also all the people within their social structure has to deal with the outflow of what this relationship will bring. For instance – The person you are having an affair with you will not bring home to meet your children.
What is though not understood and thus misinterpreted within a ‘connection’ with another being is that this ‘connection’ does not have to spill over into a relationship that threatens the physical relationships that are already formed. Many people in marriages that have walked a long path together have found themselves within this predicament where a third person comes along and ‘rubs them the right way’, immediately creating a ‘connection’ and because these relationships as ‘connections’ are misunderstood – The flirting starts and from the flirting a more communicative intimate relationship starts to develop and from this point forward the 2 people whom have formed this connection with the purest of intentions start to day dream about one another, creating alternate realities within their minds of being with the other person, creating a life with the person, sexual fantasies play out in the mind, not being able to stop, not being able to sleep properly, not being able to have a moment within the day where the thoughts do not travel to the other person. And we call this being infatuated or being in love – lol – But it is not. It is merely self expression seeking to be expressed.
So - With enough focus and attention given to the thoughts in our minds, the alternative life that we have created in our minds with this other person - the energy within ourselves becomes an unbearable desire to be with the other person, we try to contain ourselves, but end up using the words "I could not help myself" or "It just happened" - But it did not 'just happen' - The point is created over time in our minds by the attention that we had given to this alternate reality, by the thoughts that we allowed of the other person within ourselves. We create these points - we ARE the creators of our realities.
From the person's perspective that is entering into an affair - the inner conflict comes from experiencing a connection that is immediately interpreted through the eyes of a relationship instead of exploring the gift of self expression that exists within the connection.
So what do we do when we find ourselves creating 'connections' with people where these connections will be seen as 'taboo relationships' in our reality? As I mentioned before a 'connection' relationship does not necessarily have to become a physical relationship. A 'connection' relationship needs to be seen for what it is: "Self expression seeking to express itself"
So - what is 'self expression'?
Every word within our vocabulary is a word of self expression. It is a sound that is contained in a word that is able to be expressed as a living expression of who we are through us accepting and allowing ourselves to firstly define these words within ourselves and then to become the living expression of this word… for us to express / live this word.
When a 'connection' is formed with another it is a key of self expression that opens up within ourselves where we had not yet allowed ourselves to explore this specific expression as a living expression within ourselves and through this connection with another this expression steps forward.
It is thus not the relationship per se that we are attached to, but it is in fact the part of ourselves that we have not yet allowed ourselves to express that in the presence of this other person has opened up. When we misinterpret this 'connection' we tend to lean towards an affair or forming a relationship with this person as it is the self expression within ourselves that we are attempting to cultivate, it is this self expression that we are 'after', it is this self expression that we come back for more for. To clarify the word 'misinterpretation' … Within our world we will have constructs of what constitutes a friendship or what constitutes a relationship and this is largely dependent on how our social environment molded us. So for instance if we see 2 females as only being able to be friends; when this 'connection' occurs between 2 woman we will draw ourselves closer to this person by for instance becoming best friends and the same goes for a sexual relationship .. If we see that a relationship between a man and a woman can only be a 'sexual relationship' this 'connection' will be interpreted to mean to ourselves that we have to create a sexual relationship with this person. 'How' we interpret this 'connection' is thus largely dependent on 'how' we have constructed our perception of reality and how relationship constructs are designed within ourselves.
Within a recent connection that I formed that would be construed as a 'taboo relationship' within my physical environment if we were to create a physical sexual relationship, I experienced exactly this, where the expression within me was building … yet unable to be expressed sexually, which made me investigate this expression in more detail. I found that there was a build up of pressure within myself through the self suppression that I was facing as I knew that I could not express what I felt  sexually, due to decisions that created our individual lives. This suppression and build up I found to be an unacceptable state to leave myself within as one feels powerless in the presence of self expression stepping forward while all the containment walls are barely holding the expression in.
Through walking this process I realized that I have to accept this expression as myself as it is 'me'. Although this self expression only opened up within the connection that I experienced with another, I realized that through accepting this gift from another I am able to accept this expression within myself.
So … while in this emotional turmoil of energies creating a storm inside myself I allowed myself to stand still and calm the water and firstly accept these 'gifts' that stood before me. The first gift that opened up was 'vulnerability' and as I opened this word within myself I could feel the pressure releasing within me, what followed this was 'seeing myself' vulnerable before others where I would once want to 'hide' myself I stood open in sharing my life. The second gift that showed itself was contained in a treasure chest and I first had a struggle to look inside, but again I realized that I have to accept this gift as myself and become the treasure chest firstly which when doing so the chest morphed into every aspect of my physical body, I walked into the depths of myself to find a stone wall at the inner core and as I stood there the stone wall started to dissipate leaving a softness inside myself and after looking at what this signature represented I found the word 'gentleness' there. 
Thus far I have found these 2 gifts, namely vulnerability and gentleness  within the 'taboo relationship' that I have formed. These 2 words are seeking expression within myself and although accepting these gifts, I realize that this is only the first step as I now have to develop these words within myself where I allow myself to express these expressions as living expressions of who I am. So only time will tell as I explore these expressions of myself in the physical.

How to take the gift given by another and live it as an expression of oneself?
I have found this to be challenging at this stage because when I am with the person with whom I have formed this 'connection' with I automatically just 'become' this expression.  Whereas when I am not with this person I can feel this expression building within myself. This expression has now become 'alive' within me and is seeking to be expressed, yet when in the presence of others I have not yet 'found' a way of 'how to' express these gifts.
What I found interesting is that I started to have an antagonistic sharp energy towards the person that I had formed this 'connection' with… Almost like I am 'blaming them' that I am not able to express this expression within myself as with the mind interpreting this expression as only being able to be expressed sexually … The mind then again interpreting that 'not being able to express this expression' ... Must be all their fault … lol… So while having a look at this self expression being born within self … there is a gratefulness that one has to embrace that this person was able to show to oneself that this expression exists within self, but it is then up to oneself to embrace this gift, take responsibility for this gift and make it one's own.
Driving in the car today I found that there was a build up within myself again of this expression seeking to express itself so within investigating my participation within the day I found that my thoughts did go to the person whom I created this connection with but within those thoughts there was a 'desire to share my experience / process with them'. So with investigating this I saw that there was again this vulnerability stepping forward where I am able to 'share' my life with another, which when taking this expression and opening it up within myself to stand clear within vulnerability as an expression of who I am… writing out my process and sharing it with those in my environment is a first step of accepting the gift of vulnerability and allowing myself to express this expression with the people in my environment.
So … This is where I am standing at this moment in time where I am investigating the expression of vulnerability and gentleness within myself and how to express these expressions as myself whether I am in the company of this person or whether I am in a different company altogether.

Friday, 8 March 2013

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Wednesday, 26 December 2012

Day 163: Birthing ourselves as life, as a partnership Part 21 – Suppression.


Within the previous blog we had a look at how to assist and support one another within the removal of patterns within a partnership. Here we will look at suppressions.

Here we require defining the word ‘reaction’.
Reaction as we generally know the word is where we externally react to a situation and either ‘do’ something about it or ‘say’ something about it in a reactive way. Though this is only following through on the initial reaction that we had on an energetic level within and as ourselves. The actual reaction can be seen as a movement of energy within and as ourselves, where we are ‘driven to respond’ by the energy within ourselves, such as desire, fear, anger, resentment, loathing, aggression, etc. This energy is ‘driving’ our response system where we are not fully here within and as breath within the moment that we are facing, but is instead ‘driven to respond’ as though this entity within and as ourselves are driving our physical vehicle to respond in the manner of the pre-programmed design.

So – Understanding the word ‘reaction’ – we are able to clearly see that reactions have become part of our daily living lives where we have just accepted that this is the way that reality works because this is what we have all been taught through generations of pre-programming. We have been taught how to ‘control’ these ‘reactions’ to remain within the moral standings of society and we have been taught how to ‘supress’ these reactions as a means of saving face within the social contracts that we had created. Though neither of these methods have freed us or released us from the destructive patterns as reactions that keep us hostage within our own flesh; which is what the process of birthing ourselves as life, as a partnership is all about, to set ourselves free from the pre-programmed designs that drive our physical bodies to react as automated response systems based in self-interest and fear; which is where we now have a look at suppressions.

When one reacts within and as oneself to an external stimulus, this means that there is an energetic reaction / movement happening within and as oneself, which can either be triggered by an environmental stimulus or one’s partner making a comment or acting in a specific way; it is important to acknowledge this within and as oneself as it is very easy to suppress the reaction within and as oneself and thus not to face the point within and as self. Suppression happens in a matter of a split second, the second that self does not want to allow oneself to see that self has reacted to the point, which means that self does not want to allow oneself to see oneself as this limited version of oneself. Though to realise within this – this actually defeats the object because one is able to fool one’s partner in making them believe that self is no longer reactive to ‘any’ situation, though within and as self – self knows the truth, self lives the truth and self experiences the truth of oneself. Suppressing oneself to ‘keep face’ as to not allow another person to see the reaction within and as oneself is dishonest towards oneself as well as one’s partner and inadvertently creates time loops where self will just have to face the same points again until self has mastered these experiences and allowed self to let go of the pre-programmed response patterns.

So – Back to suppression. When we slow down the timeline of how suppressions occur we can clearly see that there is a trigger point that occurs to which self ‘reacts’ internally within and as oneself to which one then has a choice to either react, control or suppress within and as oneself.

Control was discussed in a previous blog – for info on this read:
http://earthsjourneytolife.blogspot.com/2012/09/day-110-control-and-self-control.html

Suppression occurs within the moment of internal reaction where the reaction is in conflict with how self had defined oneself. For instance – Let’s say that self had defined oneself as ‘I am not an angry person’ where self had placed a judgment on the expression of anger. When self is now faced with a trigger point that activates the anger pre-programmed design within and as self and the reaction of anger manifest internally within self, this expression of anger is in conflict with one’s own self definition which self would not like to see manifest within self. Suppression then becomes a coping mechanism of how to deal with this internal reaction of anger within self, where self does not have to face this reaction of anger that is existent within self, as the moment that the reaction of anger manifests internally it is also suppressed, where self can then maintain the self definition as a self concept that self had created self as.

For this very reason suppression are difficult to work with as they can elude us when we do not allow ourselves to be vigilant in our self awareness of breath in each moment, as one can easily use self justifications to not allow oneself to open up these points within and as ourselves to face the pre-programmed designs that are existent within ourselves. Using the same example as above – The moment that the reaction of anger occurs internally one will experience a negative energy but shortly thereafter self will remind oneself that self is a good person and a better person for not reacting. Though the self honest realisation within this example is that self did react internally – but only suppressed the reaction to uphold the self definition that self had created of oneself.

Monday, 17 December 2012

Day 162: Birthing ourselves as life, as a partnership Part 20 – Pattern removals in a partnership


Within a partnership focussed on bringing equality and ‘what is best for all’ into and as manifestation of the agreement one will walk through the manifested consequences of behavioural patterns that both partners are already manifested as. In a nutshell this means that both partners individually will have to face, walk through and change the behavioural patterns that they are already manifested consequential outflows of, or products of, their environment. It then thus essentially becomes a point to accumulation where once a pattern is identified the self-forgiveness and self-corrective application is applied to make the change within self that stands for and as the agreed upon ‘equality’ as well as the agreed upon ‘what is best for all’, to manifest these patterns that stand for and as life.

What is important to work through and understand within these points that manifest, show and reveal themselves are to ensure that neither partner takes the process personally. When one’s partner is reacting, throwing a temper tantrum, trying to manipulate, trying to justify, etc. – These are all just pre-programmed designs existent within and as self, where self-preservation as self-interest is placed before life. These patterns are just consequential outflows of the already existent patterned behaviour within and as self, that require to be identified and thus changed through self-forgiveness and self-corrective application, where one is able to walk through these designs and make the changes within self that stands up for what is best for all and what is best for life.

Each pattern that one faces is a test for and as oneself, where self is able to measure for oneself whether self had cleared these patterns within and as oneself to stand up for what is best for all or whether self is still holding onto one’s self interest as the patterns that self is living. So as mentioned above – What is important is not to take the process personally because when one’s partner is in a ‘reaction’ and self takes the process personally, self is then again allowing oneself to engage within this reaction game that is being played, which means that self failed one’s own test of standing up for life. Thus as one’s partner is ‘reacting’ – Stop and breathe and assess the point, do not take it personally as this is first and foremost their process that they are facing. The moment that you engage in this reaction game being played, by self also reacting (internally or externally) – it becomes your process as well; as self accepted and allowed oneself to become ‘reactive’, which is a reactive pre-programmed response and not a self willed, self driven response where self is looking at common sense and practicality to direct oneself effectively through the point.

Friday, 14 December 2012

Day 161: Birthing ourselves as life, as a partnership Part 19 – Examples of what is best for all.


Still using the example from the previous blogs, we will now look at how one can assess ‘what is best for all’. From the partner that manipulated the situation to keep their partner locked into the relationship we are able to name the game that is being played – namely ‘manipulation’ and we can see that the manipulation is done in self-interest, and as discussed before ‘self-interest’ does not consider all and is thus not what is best for all. When considering what is best for all one removes the self-interest from and as oneself and look at the relationship directly.

To look at the relationship directly one starts with self in assessing whether this relationship is ‘what is best for me, not from a self-interest perspective, but instead looking at the practical physical consequential outflows that this relationship brings to self.
Is this relationship supportive?
Is this relationship assisting and supporting me to become more effective within myself?
Is this relationship keeping me stuck in a pattern that I am not able to move from?
When I place myself and my partner together within and as myself do I see expansion or do I see constriction in the sense that I become stuck in the behavioural patterns that I have accepted and allowed myself to become?

Having assessed this point within self without the desire taking lead and speaking on one’s behalf or the fear speaking on one’s behalf – self has empowered oneself to look and see directly and the consequential outflows that this relationship brings to and as oneself. One is able to assess ‘who am I’ within this relationship.

Once self has directly assessed one’s own point of departure within the relationship, one is also able to look at the point from one’s partner’s point of view. Asking the same questions and seeing whether this relationship is supportive for one’s partner.

Another dimension to consider is the impact that this relationship has on one’s environment. Who are all the people who are affected by the decisions that self is looking at making? Here one is again able to check oneself for whether one’s decision is based in self-interest – For instance: If one is making a decision to be with a partner to spite a third party one can clearly see that this is not based in what is best for all as the starting point is ‘spite’ or ‘revenge’ or ‘blame’; inevitably these decisions lead to consequences that self will have to face again later as one’s starting point was not based in what is best for all but was instead a ‘reaction’ based in self-interest to get back at another person. Once self has cleared oneself of the self-interest within one’s environment it is again to look at how this partnership will play out within one’s environment.

What should be mentioned here is that ‘what is best for all’ is not always a ‘rosy’ experience as many times ‘what is best for all’ requires a change in how we approach things. For instance: Let’s say that one has made the decision to be with one’s partner, but looking at the environmental influences and factors one is able to see that one’s friends may not approve. If the ‘not approved’ is based within the pre-programmed design of the cultural and social influences of one’s environment – one will find the decision difficult to make, as self will have to face the pre-programmed response patterns of one’s peers. If self has proven to oneself that self is able to stand within these points – self is able to affect and create change within being an example to one’s peers of showing and revealing the pre-programming existent within their response patterns. ‘What is best for all’ is that every human being becomes freed from their pre-programmed response patterns to be able to direct themselves as life, which here within this example – Self becomes a catalyst of this change through self being able to stand up and show the pre-programmed designs existent within humanity.

‘What is best for all’ is thus a matter of taking all the points into consideration in assessing the consequential outflows of ones actions; where self removes the self-interest starting point and thus allows oneself to see and look directly at all the consequential outflows that one’s decisions and choices will have and thus aligning these choices and decisions by what one finds when self had assessed all the points involved.

Day 160: Birthing ourselves as life, as a partnership Part 18 – Our only free choice we have is to do what is best for all or not continued…


How does one assess ‘what is best for all’ within a partnership? As mentioned within the previous blog moving through one’s own self-interest is the first step to allowing oneself to see what is best for all within the situation that self is facing, as self-interest always has a limited view of the point that self is facing with a one track minded approach which ensures one’s own self-interest.

When self moves through one’s own self-interest through self-forgiveness and self-corrective application, where self releases the emotions and feelings that drive one to make decisions and choices; self is able to slow down and look at the consequential outflows of all the decisions and all the choices that are possible within the situation.

For instance using the example in the previous blog:
The first partner faced ‘the fear of being alone’ as their self-interest point. When self moves through the fear of being alone utilising self forgiveness and self corrective application; all that remains is the decision or choice to be in the partnership; which one can then assess whether this agreement is what is best for self as well as best for one’s partner by looking at who the other person is in application of themselves and who self is in application of self and how this agreement as a union will play out as sequences of events due to the nature that each being brings to the table. One is able to assess whether the partnership as an agreement is supportive in nature or destructive in nature and this is the baseline from which one is able to assess whether this union is what is best for each individually as well as whether it is best for all involved.

What should be looked at here is the sentence “what is best for self” and “what is best for all”
What is best for all includes what is best for self as all the variables are taken into consideration, which includes self within the equation and assessment of a situation. Though what is best for self might not always include what is best for all especially when one is fixated on one’s own self-interest. It is thus always imperative to let go of self interest when looking at ‘what is best for all’ and it is also to realise that ‘what is best for me’ will be included in this equation.

Here is a scenario to look at as a point of reference to the above statement.
While self is fixated on one’s own fear and thus manipulating one’s partner to remain with self, self is temporarily ‘saving’ the relationship (Belief of what is best for me), though within the process creating inequality, where one’s partner makes a decision based on being manipulated, which means that one’s partner is not in the agreement because of making the decision for and as themselves, but are instead in the agreement due to the manipulation. This means that in the future self will have to come up with new ‘manipulation tactics’ to ensure the ‘survival of the relationship’ always looking over one’s shoulder and wondering when one’s partner is going to leave self. Living in this constant state of fear is not acceptable and is not what is best for self – even though the self interest part of oneself will disagree in the moment that this point plays out, as the self interested part of oneself is only looking at ‘what is best for me right now in this moment’ – It is thus looking at a belief of what is best for self and not following through on a timeline of looking what is best for self within one’s daily living application as a sequence of events that play out which leads to a sequence of what is best for all that is involved.

It is thus ‘best for all’ to let go of one’s self interest to allow oneself to remove the blinkers of the beliefs that self had created and thus allow oneself to look directly at the physical consequential outflows of the decisions and choices that one makes to come to a sequence of what is best for all involved.

As mentioned above looking at what is best for all involves oneself to slow down and look at the factors at play within the decision that self is looking at making. Within the scenario of where one is looking at the decision of going into a partnership with another being or remaining in a partnership with another being, the supporting factor is of paramount importance in looking at whether this partnership is supportive. Supportive here implies the agreement with which one has created the partnership with, and when one’s partnership is created with the principle of what is best for all and the principle of equality – ‘support’ implies that one’s partner is supporting oneself to become the living expressions of these principles that one has set out as the basis on which this agreement as a partnership is formed. When one’s partnership is not bringing forth these points of support in allowing each partner to walk their path, to birthing themselves as life, it is clear that the partnership is not supportive, but is instead only feeding the insecurities, fears and thus self-interest that each person is holding onto within the relationship. This obviously does not mean that there will not be self-interest within the partnership as it is to realise that we are already the manifested consequential outflows of our pre-programmed designs which are based in self-interest – It is instead to see and realise and apply that which one see’s within the agreement to support one another and support self to birth oneself as life, which is living and applying oneself to what is best for all.

Within the next blog we will look at practical examples of ‘what is best for all’ within the decisions and choices that one makes.

Tuesday, 11 December 2012

Day 159: Birthing ourselves as life, as a partnership Part 17 – Our only free choice we have is to do what is best for all or not continued…


Within the previous blog we started having a look at making decisions that are based within the principle of what is best for all. Here we will have a look at an example of dilemma that partnerships face and assessing ‘what is best for all’ within a partnership.

When we make our decision based in self-interest we can find that within our consideration of the changes that we make we are only considering ourselves, we are only considering our own fears, our own desires, our own Self Interest.

If our partner is indecisive and we really want the relationship to work, through our fear we may start using manipulation tactics and persuasive tactics to get our partners to stay. Our starting point within this equation is fear and we are moving from the starting point of fear within each decision we make and each action we take to ensure our own self-interest in ensuring that our partners do not leave us. One dimension within this is that as we are ‘resonating fear’ within our interaction with our partner we are ‘feeding’ the ‘fear design’ within ourselves and thus creating this as a manifested consequential outflow as a point of creation that we will have to deal with as a manifested consequence in our world. Our partner is further pushed away by this fear as no-one wants to be in the presence of ‘fear’, which makes the partner pull away from the relationship. We are thus creating and manifesting our own fear through our participation and attention that we give the fear in creating the manifested consequences of our creation.

If we do succeed in manipulating our partner to stay with us in our relationship, the relationship will then be based on a lie where our partner did not stand within themselves to make a clear decision of remaining within the relationship, which when walking through the timeline of how this relationship will develop over time one can clearly see that the relationship is not based on equality or what is best for all, because the partner who was manipulated will hold onto a backdoor to be able to leave the relationship, thus when things don’t go the way that they had envisaged, they will use this backdoor as their escape route from the relationship. When a relationship starts on a lie it will end on a lie as one experience one and equal as to that which one creates within one’s world.

From the partners perspective, if they felt indecisive about going into an agreement, one can clearly see that there are aspects about the agreement that the person ‘likes’ as well as aspects about the agreement that the person ‘dislikes’ – hence the indecisiveness. Though even likes and dislikes are pre-programmed designs that one has to deal with, within and as oneself which one’s partner will only stand as representatives of this pre-programmed designs that we either ‘like’ or ‘dislike’. Making decisions based on ‘likes and dislikes’ is still making a decision based on the pre-programming that one has accepted and allowed oneself to become – self is thus trapped and enslaved by one’s own pre-programming where self in incapable of making an actual ‘free willed’ decision as the programming as making the decisions using ‘likes and dislikes’ as the justified reasons as to why self is or isn’t making the decisions for and as oneself.

Looking at the first partner mentioned above where fear was the starting point, and fearing to lose the partnership as the point of self interest: Moving past one’s own self interest through living the self corrective application is how one is able to open the point up to be able to see more and thus also more clearly to whether going into this partnership is what is best for 'all', which includes what is best for self as well as one’s partner, as the partners are the two primary points that require consideration within walking into this partnership. As long as self interest – in this case ‘fear’ is driving one’s decisions one is not in a position of authority within and as oneself but is instead being directed by the emotions as pre-programmed designs.

From the second partners perspective where ‘likes and dislikes’ creates indecisiveness within the agreement: This partner is also controlled by their pre-programmed designs where they fear that they may be making the ‘wrong’ choice, which is again based in the ‘likes and dislikes’. Fear here is also the starting point within attempting to make a decision which is the self interest point within this equation. As with the partner above to make a decision that is best for all one must first remove the self interest starting point, by self-corrective application within and as oneself within the moment that one see’s this pattern, to give one a chance to see clearly for and as oneself of ‘what is best for all’. As within this example the indecisiveness is only coming from one’s pre-programmed designs which is dictating what is ‘liked’ and what is ‘disliked’.
Removing one’s self interest is the first step to allowing oneself to see what is best for all – which we will discuss in the next blog.